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10 Ways to Avoid Holiday Addiction Relapses


By Diana Rodriguez
Reviewed by Pat F. Bass, III, MD, MPH


Can you have a holly jolly holiday when you’re recovering from an addiction? Start each day with a plan
to stay sober when temptation abounds.



The temptation to turn to a vice can be sparked by a busy party schedule, shopping frenzies, or just being around family.
Take care of both your mind and body each day, and remind yourself what’s at stake if you relapse.
The holidays are a time to eat, drink, and be merry. But what if you’re a recovering addict? The season for cocktails, parties, and
good times can be a tough one to navigate unscathed.
“The holidays are a stressful time, and many people find that using a substance is a way of coping with stress,” says Kate
Rhine, LCSW, a licensed clinical social worker and certified addiction counselor with Kaiser Permanente in Colorado


Ramped up family time also can be emotional for many, especially those recovering from addiction, Rhine adds. For people
without close family ties, loneliness may set in.


You don’t need alcohol, cigarettes, or drugs to jingle your bells this holiday season, but you do need this go­to guide to stay
1. Start each day with a plan to fend off a holiday addiction relapse. “An alcoholic needs to wake up each morning thinking
about how to stay sober that day,” says Peter R. Martin, MD, a professor of psychiatry and pharmacology and director of the
Vanderbilt Addiction Center at the Vanderbilt Psychiatric Hospital in Nashville. “Once they have a plan, they are fine for the rest
of that day.” The key is staying focused on your goal of sobriety.
2. Evaluate each situation. Rank scenarios as low, medium, or high risk for you. In early recovery, spend more time in low­risk
situations and avoid high­risk, Rhine says. If you’re further into recovery and will be in a situation that is medium­ or high­risk,
such as a party with an open bar, rely on your plan. Plan to arrive early and duck out a bit early, she suggests. Drive yourself so
that you can leave when you’re ready.

3. Bring the party with you. Take along a food or safe drink that you enjoy. For instance, if champagne is a big temptation for
you at a New Year’s soiree, bring a flavored sparkling water to sip as the clock counts down.

4. Know your triggers. Every addict should know their triggers for relapse and how to manage them, Dr. Martin says. The most
common triggers go with acronym HALT — for when you feel hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. Take care of yourself, mentally and
physically, to ward off these triggers.

5. Don’t forget to eat. Low blood sugar can leave you anxious or irritable, Rhine says. This, in turn, can make you feel
impulsive and tempted to turn to substances. Have a nutritious meal or snack about every three hours.

6. Keep stress under control. Many people turn to alcohol or illegal substances as a way to cope with stress. So when stress
strikes, take a few minutes to decompress and meditate instead. Push away thoughts of substance use.

“Just because you have a thought doesn’t mean you have to act on it,” Rhine says. Also make time for regular exercise. “The
urge to drink alcohol or use a drug often feels physical,” she explains, so giving your body something to do can satisfy the

7. Distract yourself. Bring along a buddy who doesn’t drink, smoke, or use drugs to help you stay sober at social functions.
Stay in an area away from the bar, and strike up a conversation with someone. Offer to help your host so that you stay busy with little tasks.


8. Rehearse responses. If you’re not ready to share the fact that you’re in recovery with your elderly aunt or an out ­of­ touch
cousin at your family holiday dinner, use a discreet strategy for turning down alcoholic drinks or other substances: Create a
script that you can use to decline off ­limits offers.

9. Learn to move past your cravings. A craving only lasts about 20 minutes, Rhine says, so if you can stay strong for a short
period, the urge should pass. Move to a different setting, meditate, or breathe deeply. Talk yourself out of acting on your urge,
she suggests, by saying something like, “The reality is. I cannot stop at one drink, and I can choose to have something nonalcoholic
instead.” Remember how much is at risk if you give into your craving.

10. Lean on your support system. If you’re part of a support group, make time to attend a few extra meetings during the
holidays to stay on track. If you need help finding a support group, the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence
offers a list of support organizations you can contact. Stay close with your supportive friends and family and those you’ve met
during your recovery journey, and understand that your friends who abuse substances may have to celebrate without you this


Curated from http://www.everydayhealth.com/news/ways-avoid-holiday-addiction-relapses/
Last Updated: 12/4/2014


Blackouts – Are They Real or Just an Excuse? – BreakingTheCycles.com

How many times have you found yourself uttering incredulous gasps, “What do you mean you don’t remember?” or engaging in an argument with someone you care about because of something they said or did while they were drunk? Have you ever had them just stare at you, stone faced, as if to challenge your recollection and/or flip it around to somehow being “your fault,” something you’d simply dreamed up or were blowing all out of proportion?

Surprisingly, perhaps, your loved one might incapable of remembering their behaviors while intoxicated – even if they were fully “there,” (meaning not passed out but still standing, talking, doing ‘stuff’). This is because they’ve likely experienced an alcohol-induced blackout.




10 Reasons Why Being An Alcoholic Will Kill Your Game | Drug Treatment Center Finder

10 Reasons Why Being An Alcoholic Will Kill Your Game

  1. The ‘Axe Treatment’ Isn’t Fool-Proof

Clever advertising may lead you to believe that Febreeze can mask any odor successfully – however, every 18-32 year-old American male knows that there is only one product that can truly camouflage any stench. The ‘Axe Treatment’ has been effectively disguising body odor, remnants of just-smoked danky dank, and the lingering scent of mistresses nationwide since the early 2000’s. However, there is one completely overpowering aroma that even this noxious body spray will not cloak – alcoholism. The telltale bouquet of vodka, puke, and cigarettes overwhelms every cologne known to man, including (to the shock and dismay of everyone everywhere) Axe Body Spray.


  1. What You Think Looks Fresh Doesn’t Look Fresh

Getting dressed while hungover is never good – getting dressed while drunk is pretty much an instantaneous game killer. If you think it matches, it doesn’t match. If you think you look super fly, you look like a sad, incompetent moron. All fashion sense is technically completely lost after one’s blood alcohol level exceeds 0.02. For the chronic alcoholic, this means the likelihood of looking fresh is left solely to the science probability. Another complicating factor lies in the reality that drunk people don’t like to wear clothes. No pants + no shirt = no fresh.


  1. Your Pad Is Shameful

Being constantly intoxicated lends itself to not caring about anything. And although you have slowly become immune to the smell of rotting leftovers and unscrubbed toilet, your houseguests probably haven’t. Bringing a girl home to a corroded studio apartment cluttered with beer cans and potentially clean but questionable piles of laundry is a definite game killer. If she asks you where your dog is and you don’t have a dog… it’s probably time to go to rehab.

Of course, you may be living in the guestroom at your parents’ house, and your mom may still make your bed every morning. If this is the case, your mother is a codependent and also… go to rehab.


  1. Remembering Things Is Important

Names, dates, your wallet… these are all things that people with mad game tend to remember. If you pick up a girl named Stacy two hours late, call her Megan, and ask her to spot you after ordering 4 craft beers and a steak, you will not get laid. Fortunately, you probably won’t remember not getting laid, and in reality, you won’t care either way anyway.


  1. Whisky Dick

Nuff said.


  1. STD’s

Nothing kills game like a fresh batch of pubic lice. Trips to the Urgent Care clinic down the street will inevitably start adding up, and money you’d rather be spending on bottom-shelf vodka will continue going towards antibiotics and genital exams. The promiscuity that tends to go hand-in-hand with an alcoholic lifestyle can result in some seriously game-changing game killers… some that can be treated with medicated cream and some that really, really can’t.


  1. You Aren’t An Artist And You Can’t Sing

No one is impressed, please just stop. It’s totally cool that you (like everyone else living in the land of depressing delusion) want to be a rockstar, but the chances are it is never going to happen. Partially because you are talentless and partially because you are an alcoholic with literally nothing going for you. If you do have some semblance of natural ability, the determination necessary is undoubtedly just not there. Few things kill game as quickly as a super sad drunk guy playing the guitar really badly.


  1. Emotional Unavailability Is So Last Season

It’s true that women tend to go for bad boys, attracted to the sense of danger and sexy instability rugged men on motorcycles tend to portray. But even leather-clad outlaws have a sensitive side when it comes to sweet, sweet romance. Alcoholics are pretty much always totally emotionally unavailable, too wrapped up in their own self-seeking ways to provide any kind of emotional support to a lady friend. And we all know that lady friends need emotional support… big time. If you don’t have feelings you don’t have game.


  1. Fatty Liver Is Not Sexy

Dying of cirrhosis is not a turn on. If you want to impress a woman with your sweet game, don’t tell her you are about 7 drinks away from wet brain. Overcoming serious diseases is actually scientifically proven to get girls naked – dying of complications due to prolonged alcoholism is just a major bummer.


       10. You Ride A Bicycle

I mean… you ride a bicycle. Nothing screams “no game” like a lavender beach cruiser. Stacy will only pick you up from your parent’s house so many times before she realizes your car may not be in the shop after all. And 5 DUI’s later, it might be several decades before the “tune up” actually concludes. Of course, there are many valid reasons for one to opt for bicycle riding over car driving – like gas prices, exercise, commitment to the hipster vibe, and totally MAJORLY helping to eliminate pollution (keep changing the world, bro). Being an alcoholic is not a respectable reason to ride a bike.

Being an alcoholic will kill your game.



Curated from http://www.drugtreatmentcenterfinder.com/10-reasons-alcoholic-will-kill-game/

Cayla wrote this in Alcoholism on Thursday, November 6, 2014